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Weekly Thought - 81 - Life Happens

I recently read a great article by Geoffrey Gitomer, who is a well known Sales Trainer and Motivator that I was introduced to by one of the schools in CVTA. Not sure how I ever missed him over the years, but his style and approach is brilliant.   The “meat” of the article, which had to do with life planning,  got me thinking about past experiences in my life and how friends and even members of my own family have been struggling with questions about their future these days….

They ask: What should I do now? What are the consequences?

I think that many people, maybe even you, are wandering and wondering what will happen next? What are the risks? What are the rewards?   Many have no idea because the times are so uncertain today (that's an understatement). Times are actually tougher and more challenging than they have ever been in our history.   Our parents and grandparents dealt with a much different way of life than we grew up in, until recently. Now, we’re facing our own life changing times that will define all of us for generations to come.

Think back to any other life changing decisions that you made, or were made for you. The decision to leave home, the decision of what higher education you wanted to achieve and where you wanted to go to achieve it, the decision to get married, the decision to have a child, the decision to buy a home (kind of like the one you left), the decision to choose a career, the decision to accept a job offer, or maybe even the decision to start your own business. All of these decisions had an emotional basis, a logical justification, and some reward or consequence.

And here’s the thing…..in the middle of all these decisions is life. YOUR life. And every time you take an action, you're helping yourself see more light.

You're asking yourself:
Am I doing the right thing?
Am I doing the best thing for others?
Am I doing the best thing for myself?
Do I love what I am doing?
Would I rather be doing something else?
Should I be doing something else?
What else could I be doing?

I’m going to share a personal story. In late 1985 I was sitting alone at a table in Greybull Wyoming, of all places. Anyone who has ever driven through this little one horse town outside of Cody, knows what I’m talking about.  I’d taken a gamble and moved from the Pacific Northwest on a business venture a year prior, for a Radio/TV combo opportunity.  It was a difficult area for my family to be in and it didn’t take long before I was careening towards a divorce, separated from my wife of five years and my children, five years and three years.  The gamble hadn’t paid off well and I was virtually penniless.  As I sat at the table I suddenly realized I needed to be someplace else. I needed to be with my family, and it took me almost a year to come to that reality. (I’m too stubborn for my own good sometimes).

During that entire time, I struggled without really understanding why. But sitting at that table and thinking to myself "Should I be doing this or should I be playing with my kids?"  was a wakeup call I could not deny. A clear and defining moment for me.   Within a short time, I packed up and we had reunited. Ultimately the divorce happened anyway, but in reflection that was the best for everyone concerned.

YOUR STORY: I’m betting you have a story that reminded you of something similar, either with yourself or someone you know. That's the reason I chose to tell it.

Think about those moments of decision in YOUR life, those moments when you found some form of clarity, and you will see that what happened in response to that decision, what happened in response to that clarity, has led you to greater heights, greater happiness, greater success, and maybe (but not so important) greater wealth.

Obviously not all decisions create this much impact.

But right now,  at this moment in time, you and I are faced with some economic uncertainty.

I'm challenging you to recognize that now is the time to take a close look at who you are, where you are, and what you could be doing or should be doing that would give you more of what you are hoping for.

It’s especially hard for those in their 20’s and 30’s, because all the rules of the game as they have known them have either changed or are completely off.  That generation grew up with a job on every corner and opportunity everywhere.  They have neither the perspective nor the tools to deal with this economy because they never had to.

But here’s the thing…..when that circumstance is upon each of us, it creates the best opportunity for each one of us to make a defining change and win.  It’s not going to come easily and it’s not going to come without some sacrifice and change in your life, but in the end it’s going to be the best thing you could have ever done.

The SECRET: Make a change or decide to change based on what you feel is best for you in your heart - and all the rest will fall into place in both your body and your mind.

Another SECRET: This decision must be made when it becomes apparent that it's time to make it (don't delay or procrastinate), and the cause for making the decision must be based on your happiness and your peace of mind, not made for someone else.   It’s a very hard decision to make.

When you decide on what's best for yourself first, all the people in your life will be better as a result of it (even if they are initially against it).

Be happy in YOUR world, so that you can be happy in THEIR world, and THE world.

Thanks for reading…..